I had a zoom call with a guy about a month ago, he was a great fit for a program that I sell but it was obvious to see that he was in a place where he was creating chaos in his own life.
The program would have been a great fit for him but his business model, lack of daily discipline and future planning and to be honest his attitude toward life were causing him to not have the financial means to afford the programme.
The call ended with him applying for credit which he was duly denied. At stages of the call things got a bit rough and I felt the propensity to be pulled into smallness and end the call from a place of him being a bad fit… ego stuff…
I felt my personal values conflict with his, I sensed a level of arrogance made me want to distance myself from him.
But I checked in with myself, this guy was a good fit for the programme and this is what he needed in his life, a system that would bring more abundance but more importantly less stress and chaos to his life.
How would someone who really cared for that person act despite their philosophical differences? – To drop the need to be right or have the right to hold judgment.
To me it meant putting an authentic as possible smile on my face, following up, checking in from a place of just wanting to help…
He called me out of the blue yesterday and we had a conversation about working on his budget and asking his parents for financial support …
Will he sign up and make the change? Probably … It may take a few months but I believe things will fall into place.
It was a great learning experience that I wanted to share: had I been pulled into that icky place of confrontation that call back from him never would have happened but managing to hold space has allowed the sale to keep moving forward.